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Are DMs Cheating?: When It’s Okay and Where To Draw The Line

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October 13, 2022


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Cheating has become a subject of taboo and often happens when someone engages in emotional or sexual contact with a person who isn’t their partner. Being unfaithful can have several definitions – depending on the person as boundaries need to be clear at the beginning of a relationship. A relationship adheres to a certain set of rules and boundaries to make the partnership work. 

 

Cheating can happen in more ways than one. With the rise of social media, direct messaging or DMs have become an avenue for cheating. Despite being harmless for most people, cheating can occur when you’re exchanging direct messages with other people – especially with the intention of your communicating with the other party. 

 

Pero, mommies, cheating ba talaga ‘yon? Here are a few things to consider. 

 

Direct Messaging: When is it NOT Cheating?

 

In hindsight, the act of direct messaging is definitely not cheating. 

 

Ang pagpapadala o pagsesend ng mga direct o instant message ay hindi pangangaliwa. Ginagawa nating lahat ito, at kadalasan pa, we use instant messaging to communicate with our friends and family. 

 

Nagagamit din ang pagpapadala ng mga DM sa trabaho at sa eskwela. Ito rin ay nagiging isang platform para sa mga seller upang makipag-ugnayan sa kanilang mga mamimili ng mas madali. 

 

 

Direct messaging itself is harmless and shouldn’t be bad. Ito ay isang paraan ng pakikipag-usap sa mga mahal natin sa buhay. Ito rin ay paraan upang makapagtrabaho tayo nang mas mabilis at mas magkalinawan sa trabaho. Sa panahon ngayon, ang mga direct messaging na ang mas ginagamit kasya sa pagpapadala ng mga SMS o text message dahil ito ay mas mabilis. 

 

Hindi dapat tinitignan sa masamang panig ang pagpapadala ng mga direct message – lalo na kung ito ay ginagamit naman bilang primary form for communication.

 

Where to Draw the Line When Sending DMs

 

While DMs are harmless, it always boils down to the intention: how do you use your messaging apps, and why are you sending that message in the first place? 

 

May iba’t-ibang uri ng pangangaliwa, at hindi ito limitado sa pagtatalik lang. Cheating can also be emotional, and this usually happens through constant texting and unfortunately direct messaging. 

 

If you are exchanging these messages with someone else intending to flirt and intending to make things intimate while you’re in a relationship with someone else – then that is emotional cheating. 

 

Some might argue that exchanging direct messages with someone isn’t cheating – there is a line to be crossed with this. It counts as cheating when individuals become emotionally invested in each other, and when there is already an intent to continue with that form of communication. 

 

 

When messages become plans – that’s usually a sign of cheating. There is a basic rule to be followed, as said by sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni: “flirt by all means, but don’t take action.” 

 

Gayunpaman, ang pakikipag-ugnayan sa ibang tao maliban sa iyong partner na may ibang intensyon ay maituturing ding pangangaliwa. Ito ay maaaring gamitin din bilang ebidensya na mayroon ngang nagaganap na infidelity sa isang relationship. 

 

Laging tandaan, mga mommies, hindi naman natin kailangang i-check o suriin ang mga mobile phone ng ating mga asawa dahil sila ay may karapatan sa kanilang privacy. However, if there are already telltale signs of cheating, remember to approach the situation carefully. Should you end up with a confrontation, remember to keep calm and to put yourself first.

 

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