As mothers, a child needs to have a healthy and safe space for the child to live in as it affects their overall well-being.
When talking about safe spaces, the first thing that comes to mind is the physical safety at home which everyone needs, especially children. Having a safe space also means providing emotional security for your kids to have a strong emotional foundation and a healthy family. Children need this type of space for their emotional and mental for that sense of belonging.
Here are some examples that can help you create that safe space for your child.
1. No Judgement!
Everyone makes mistakes. Make your space a haven for growth and improvement by showing them you are open to hearing their side. Judging them can make them feel like eyes are always on them and that they may feel fear when they commit something wrong or questionable.
2. Don’t Yell or Raise Your Voice
No one wants to be yelled at. This can cause trauma to them, making them think they are going to get scolded when they do something wrong. We get things wrong, so we must be more patient and lenient with children. Anger is not the way to go, as children may also get that trait when they get old. As much as possible, hold back your anger and calmly correct them. Talk and explain to them instead of raising your voice on them. You want your kids to be surrounded by a family that communicates maturely.
3. Let them be kids
It is in a child’s nature to be playful and energetic, which can be overwhelming at our end sometimes. Playtime is necessary to improve their motor and social skills. Nurture their curiosity about their surroundings and let them be creative. Encourage them to express themselves. As a first-time mom, as much as possible, you want them to enjoy their childhood. Let them be, but keep in mind to guide them from danger.
4. Set good examples
Children are like sponges. They absorb everything they see and hear. With that, being mindful of how we act around them is necessary, as they can pick up those and mimic them. They look up to you and you want them to grow as wonderful individuals.
5. Stay Positive
When we’re put in a difficult situation, we respond negatively to those challenges. Kids can tell and feel when you respond negatively and with that, they can pick up that trait. Life can be hard sometimes, but you have someone looking up to you now. Show them to be more hopeful in trying times and be encouraging.
6. Be Honest and Kind
Honesty is good, but remember to choose the right words so it won’t affect their confidence. This parenting style can help build mutual trust and bond with them. Instead, put yourself into their shoes and see their perspective on things. Their curiosity about things can be an opportunity for them to learn and also to know them more.
With the right choice of words, you can effectively communicate with them without hurting their feelings.
7. Show Affection
Let them feel your affection and care, as it can make them feel they’re loved. A simple hug or kiss can make them feel that they’re important. Simple acts like these can help them develop emotionally and also be empathic. Displaying affection can help make your bond and trust stronger.
8. Ask before giving them advice
Sometimes, a child just needs someone to listen to them and not give them unsolicited advice. Tips for first-time moms: as much as we want to inform and educate our children, we should keep in mind their feelings and take a step back and listen to them. Before we give advice, we should ask them if they want our advice. With that, they learn to be independent in making their choices and they’ll come to us if they need help. Give them the space to voice out their thoughts and listen to what they feel. With that, it would make them feel their thoughts are valid and considered.
9. Empathize with them
With all we mentioned, empathizing with them will always be present. Sometimes, our kids are not in the mood to talk and there are times they are in the mood. Empathy goes a long way. Even though you’ve given your best to have you trust them, they may not be open to sharing right away. Be patient and respectful of their feelings, as this means you respect the boundaries that are set.
10. Be there for them
This would always be present in any parenting guide. Let them know that you’re always there for them in good and bad times. Though there will be times they prefer to do things alone, remind them you’re ready to talk whenever they’re ready. Although you want to step in, keep in mind to respect their boundaries. They would open up when they felt they were ready. Give them the moral support they need even at a distance.
Keeping a safe space for your child is important to keep them in a healthy mental state, regardless of what parenting style you have. Always remember that your child’s security and welfare comes first. There is no perfect solution for this parenting journey. But as long as you shower them with love and affection and make sure that they are always safe, you are on the right track!
You got this, mommies & daddies!
sources: all4kids.org, shameproofparenting.com, mother.ly, freepik.com
